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This video features pictures and video clips of Canalside and Erie Basin Marina. These are two of my favorite spots to visit in Buffalo. There are water activities, boat rides, food, ice cream, flowers, architecture and plenty of activities for everyone. There are plenty of family friendly games and events as well. Go check out my video and thanks for stopping by.
My video features scenes from around Buffalo’s waterways. Buffalo has many scenic areas and places to relax and unwind. Please check out my video on youtube and thank you for stopping by.
A new video is waiting to be explored on my youtube channel, Coffeebeanz. This is a series of photos taken of Buffalo, NY. It is a small sample of what this great city offers. Buffalo is going through a resurgence and I am enjoying capturing all of this history in the making. Please go watch my video and thanks for stopping by
i have been suffering from a rosacea like condition on my face since about 2011. I have not been diagnosed with this specific condition but I definitely exhibit the characteristics. I had tried Neutrogena grapefruit scrub on a whim during 2011. My face dried out horribly and looked almost burned and started to get kind of flaky and had bumps that were not pimples. I think hormones may have played a role but I am not totally sure if it was one thing or a combination of things. I changed my diet around to reduce inflammation as well. After many years and many products, I only found one that seemed to calm my face slightly but it stopped working. After many searches on the Internet, I came across Honeyskin Organics face cream and face wash. The reviews on Amazon and the internet seemed promising. They mentioned rosacea and eczema specifically, so that was reassuring. Well, it has been about a month or so and I love it. It took about a week of using the face wash and the cream to see a difference. My face is smooth with smaller pores and a more youthful appearance. The cream is thick so start with a smaller amount and rub it onto your face. After you apply the cream you don’t feel it on once it absorbs. People noted a bad smell but I don’t think it smells bad, however it doesn’t have a perfume smell either. The face wash is great too. It looks like shampoo at first glance. It feels soft on the skin and doesn’t dry my skin out but cleans really well. This is a lifesaver for me because the redness I had is very embarrassing and people definitely stare at you like your contagious. I lost 6 years or more before I found any products to tame this inflamed skin. I tried colloidal silver as well in case it was bacterial or viral for that matter(will post about that product too). You should try this product because this product is a lifesaver for rosacea or eczema type of conditions. Many reviews said they helped their children that suffered with eczema too. Check out my link to buy this product on Amazon, you won’t regret it.
Ok ,so I know that most all posts of mine have been about self pity in essence but then that’s why I blog, isn’t it? It’s not about pity really, but rather a way to express my feelings rather than going nuts and flipping out on people. This blog is more of the same I suppose but you be the judge. Mainly my complaint today is that of selfish people. When I get a call from someone and I can’t get a word in about anything important or trivial, it really burns my backside. My favorite is when I am told, that’s not important but let me tell you who I saw at the store or whatever they wish to interrupt with. Some of my family members are especially good at this. It is ,however, equally upsetting when you have a friend who is an excellent listener but never divulges anything. I’m not talking deep dark secrets or personal info either. I think that’s what friends talk about, or at least they used to, but not anything of substance. I might inquire about a troubling issue they have been going through and they just say , oh I’d rather not get into it. I might ask how is your job and they say oh you know, same old …same old. I have to question if I’m the crappy friend in this scenario ,since they are not willing to talk about anything other than my contribution to the conversation. In any case, I just wonder why friendships or even relating to relatives has become so difficult for me in my old age(only in my thirties, but still). Your family is supposed to be supportive. My theory is that I allowed them to see me for too long as a spineless and weak person. I was the butt of everyone’s jokes and told that I was paranoid about what people thought about me. I was told I always overreacted to people and situations. They tell a sort of pre story to everyone so that they judge me based on that character they created and that I inevitably became in so many ways. It was not how I wanted anyone to see me but it seemed a lovable character that was welcomed at least. Whenever I show confidence or stand up for myself by saying, hey that isn’t me, it’s not what I like or how I really am at all, it is met with a less than stellar response. I never really became assertive or confident until after high school and believe it or not ,that old persona I let them create for me ,didn’t go away. After all, I played that role because it was less stressful than the constant battle to let my true self shine through. Recently a person introduced into the family said to me, well we all know you hate everyone and everything and your sensitive and hard to please. I was blown away by this because they didn’t get to know me but the image my family created instead. I told them that they shouldn’t believe what they heard because it’s not me. Every action I take is met with , oh that’s so typical of you. I bet you will do this or that next. Um, you don’t even know me…my family doesn’t even know the real me. So I guess it’s partly my fault for living up to these things they wanted me to be. It just sucks because I’m now treated like a weak and angry and paranoid character. You try so hard to better yourself and reinvent yourself to no avail. I can just be sitting back and listening to what’s going on and they will try to egg me on to do or say what they expect me to. When I don’t respond on cue, they say…wow what’s your problem. So I guess I kind of answered my own question as to why I get treated how I do but when friends who don’t know your family dynamic judge you based on one conversation with your family, it’s just tiring trying to defend your true self. The more I defend myself, the worse it gets because it’s viewed as me trying to cover up my alleged behaviors. It makes me look as if I am the one fabricating the story. The thing is, why it’s been bothering me again after so many years, is that it’s become a problem for me to have them paint this picture for my son. I have talked to at least two or three of these folks and let them know not to act this way in front of my son but they don’t care. They simply don’t care about anyone but themselves. They never think they are wrong. If I do something and someone tells me not to because it hurts them in some way, then I stop. Even when I think it’s funny or they are overreacting, it’s still bothers them so I won’t do it. In one case my brother asked me not to say certain things about him in front of his kids, ok no problem. I realized kids are impressionable. Now that I have a child I asked for the same courtesy but guess what….sorry it’s funny..that’s what they say. Ok…NO it’s not funny. Ok well I’ve gone off in several directions on this blog so now I will wrap it up with this question, ….Is it ever ok to allow your family to continue treating you in ways that you don’t like because they are family and you can’t change people? Or should you put your foot down continually and if they won’t even compromise then you cut ties? Same thing for friends, easier to get rid of than family. Ok I guess that’s more than one question. Any thoughts on this topic? Please feel free to comment.
Ok …so I feel like social media has gotten out of control because there are so many bullies behind the computer these days. If someone posts or reposts something and you don’t like it, you can IGNORE it. Shocking concept to some folks but not everything in life goes how you want it. We are not living in your little world ,as you see it. Believe it or not ,other people have opinions and they don’t always match yours. I can admit some posts infuriate me ,but then I come back to reality and say to myself, do I need to argue over this or is this post merely someone’s opinion? If it’s against my moral fiber to the point I can’t be friends with this person, then I delete or block said friend. I have come to the conclusion that social media is as much a curse as it is a benefit to me. We are too obsessed with being plugged in every minute of every day. Also ,I am so beyond irritated with people being extremely rude or nasty online about things they would never have had the gull to say to your face. This sense of, I can say whatever I want, when I want and you have to accept every bit of it because anything goes now a days ,and you can’t tell me I’m wrong because I can pursue you legally for hurting my feelings or disagreeing with me. This is the climate out there on social media. Even celebrities aren’t immune anymore from the everyday average Joe blasting them on social media. There is also this culture of people who take advantage of the good people out there by asking for money and attention for their alleged sick children or relatives. I’m all for helping when the cause is legit but don’t pimp out your kid or someone else’s under the guise of charity or anything else. The upside to social media is meeting up with old friends and family and connecting with new people or coworkers and the like. This can sadly also be the downside since you can lose your job or family member over comments on Facebook or Twitter and so on. I think it’s great for folks who aren’t able to get out much or can’t speak or getting to see you grandchildren overseas or family out of state. I just think we need to tweet or post more responsibly and more lighthearted things. Stop the cyber bullying and catty nonsense. It’s a stressor I don’t need in my life. I’m glad I can just block folks at will sometimes but should it be so easy to block someone from your life that easily? Also when someone makes a comment ,you don’t know how someone meant it, and folks read emotion into it that maybe wasn’t there. The next thing you know , you are getting put on blast for the world to see how horrible of a person you are. People don’t talk it out with each other, but instead, get all of their social media friends to rally with them and mouth off to the offender in question like a group of bullies. After so much arguing and blocking and unblocking, you find out you were wrong and it was a miscommunication. I guess we have forgotten how to communicate with others, I mean really talk to each other and just relate. Where are the social skills people? Do they still teach empathy and such in school? I know this topic has had numerous articles and press about it but I just wanted to vent as well. If you have any thoughts or opinions, please feel free to comment. Thanks as always for reading my blog.